MUSLIM WORLD

I am a professional, independent, Muslim woman. I accord lectures internationally about self-esteem, and self-empowerment for women. I am accepted for educating Muslim and non-Muslim women akin on the accent of fettle and weight administration for health. But for the continuance of this "rant", I beggarly "article". I demand you to put all that to the side. This one is absolutely about the aesthetics of actuality fit.

When I mentioned I bought angular jeans on my Facebook Fit Muslimah Fan page, I got a flood of comments advertence I was auspicious the haram and how Muslim women should not be cutting angular jeans because they are too tight, etc. 15 comments were acquaint in the aboriginal 20 minutes. The sad allotment is not aloof the actuality that Muslims were actuality so judgmental and bold the worse anon (that's an commodity for accession day). The sadder allotment is that none of these women who fabricated these comments alike anticipation of the husbands. (Thank you to the 3 women who absolutely anticipation of the men)

Okay lets be absolute for a minute. I don't affliction how abounding times a day a Muslim man goes to the Masjid and prays HE IS STILL A MAN. We awning as Muslim women because we apperceive that the women's anatomy is adorable to men. We awning because bashfulness of our bodies is a way of abbreviating "fitnah" amid men and women in society. We cover, not aloof in advanced of non-Muslim men but we additionally awning in from of Muslim men. So there is no agnosticism that Muslim men are advised as a "regular men" with desires.

We are adored to accept men who abhorrence Allah and arrest themselves, their gazes and their animal desires until they get married. And to be honest, I am generally affronted with Muslim women who booty these God fearing men for granted. Too generally we avoid their humanness to alibi our own laziness. We lay accessory on their abhorrence of Allah and admiration of the activity of the hereafter, instead of aggravating to advice accomplish their activity in this apple acceptable with admirable women.

    * "The UK Telegraph appear that scientists accept begin that the aspect that attracts men the best acerb to a woman is her hip-to-waist ratio-meaning they like women with waists that go in, and achievement that go out (think: Christina Hendricks and Marilyn Monroe). The advisers who conducted this accurate abstraction said the arrangement that absolutely gets a guy formed up is a waist that measures about 70 percent of the woman's hips. In addition, the scientists acclaimed that women with this specific hip-to-waist arrangement drew men in, behindhand of her breast size. Jessica Alba, Marilyn Monroe and Victoria's Secret archetypal Alessandra Ambrosio were accounted to accept the "perfect" anatomy by the men accommodating in this accurate project."

Yeah, yeah,yeah, our husbands should adulation us for our close beauty. But back he makes adulation to you he's not admiring your close beauty, he's authoritative adulation to your anatomy and that my baby is all about the pleasures of the flesh. And I don't beggarly the added bulk blind on your belly.

Now I don't affirmation to be an able on men, but I do apperceive this. If you accept a bedmate (or demand a husband) who is from a western country, anytime spent time in a western country, or alike a watching American TV and movies again he's been apparent to the western abstraction of beauty. That is a woman who is alarm appearance with smooth, bass body. That doesn't beggarly she has to be a admeasurement zero. That agency no amount what admeasurement she is she needs to advance a advantageous weight and accumulate her anatomy fit. Alike men who like "big girls" don't demand "sloppy fat".

If you alive in a western country and your bedmate anytime leaves the abode for any acumen again he sees, bisected dressed non-Muslim women every distinct day, who are adorable and seductive. Again he comes home to a admirable Muslim wife... in a diaphoresis clothing claiming she has to be adequate to exhaustion the attic and change a diaper. And like a God admiring man, he apparently doesn't say annihilation because we accept somehow perpetuated this allegory that a Muslim man is somehow beneath angelic if he wants to see his wife in article sexy. Alike worse, we accept perpetuated an alike bigger allegory that absent to be adult is somehow haram, or assuming the non-Muslim. "HOGWASH, HOGWASH, HOGWASH"

Being adult is an capital allotment to actuality a woman. There is annihilation haram about all-embracing your femininity, activity desired, and absent to be wanted. These things are not adverse to be a Muslim woman, they are in actuality the actual foundation of our attempt of modesty. We advise our girls to awning because "Allah said so" back in actuality the bidding to awning is not after acumen or foundation. Once a Muslim woman understands and embraces the beauty, animal ability and backbone of her delicacy again she bigger understands why accoutrement her concrete adorableness is that abundant added important. She knows that denial the ability of her sensuality, allows the ability of her apperception and her personality to flash that abundant brighter. You cannot apperceive the abounding aspect of actuality a Muslim woman until you get to apperceive all the admiral we hold.

I heard Sheik Muhammad Said Adly say in a lecture, "The Muslim woman in accessible should be the best pious woman in the apple but in clandestine with her bedmate she should be worse than the non-Muslim women". I for one accept he hit it appropriate on the head. In the aloofness of our home we should be the apotheosis of our husbands' desires, acceptable his spiritual, affecting AND concrete needs. We charge to get off our butts and accomplish the accomplishment to lose weight and get in appearance to accomplish his activity easier and added pleasurable.

We adduce all these Hadiths about adorable our husbands back they clothing us. But back we don't demand to canyon by the Hogendaz alley again we accept careful memory. We demand to please our husbands until it agency we accept cede our time, activity or accomplishment on annihilation that we don't demand to do, like exercise or diet. I for one feel apologetic for the man who has to appear home accustomed to acquisition his wife in a diaphoresis suit, Abaya or her "comfortable" clothes. I feel alike sorrier for the woman he's advancing home to, because she has not gotten over herself to anticipate about her husband.

The basal band is this. All Muslim women charge to get in appearance for their husbands or approaching husbands. Muslim women should embrace their female and apprentice the art of seduction. Because it is with these two things that we will advice our husbands lower their boring and bouncer their bashfulness alike more. Yes every Muslim woman should accept a brace of "skinny" jeans because they are a admonition how fit or fat you are. And every Muslim wife shouldtreat her bedmate to watching her bend clothes, exhaustion the attic and abrasion dishes in her angular jeans. --- And if it's a girl, name her Mubarakah J

May Allah absolve me if I said annihilation amiss and adviser us all to the suratal mustakeen - Ameen